By Rebecca Thorsen / October 12, 2020

We’ve all seen them and some of us have them. I remember the first tattoo I ever saw: It was on my dad’s forearm, and it had the word ‘mother’ on it. The funny thing is I never asked him why he had it. As the years went by it started to fade and now it looks a gray splotch on his arm. The reason I bring up my dad’s tattoo is because I have thought about getting one myself, but I don’t feel strongly enough about anything to have it inked on my body. This isn’t to say I don’t have strong feelings about things; I love my husband and daughters, but I don’t need to ink their names on me to know that they are important. However, this is just me; I know a lot of people out there that look at tattooing as an expression of themselves.

I know a young man who had a mini tattoo put on his arm to remind himself not to repeat something stupid he had done in his life. I believe it worked for him, because he has a beautiful wife and an adorable little girl that are the center of his life.

I have met people that believe their bodies are a canvas to be painted, just as an artist would a paint on something external to themselves. The only opinion I have about people that use their bodies as living canvas is that they should be careful to find incredible tattoo artist, because unlike artist that paint external to themselves you can’t throw your body away if your unhappy with the work!

I look at tattoos as a big commitment that should never be taken lightly. For example, anyone that gets tatted up after they have been drinking really should rethink their drinking habits. Also, getting one just because someone else has one goes into the “just because everyone is jumping off the bridge doesn’t mean you should” bucket (I totally own the mom statement I just made).

I am a part of a family that researches everything: The right classes to take, the best places to go hiking, how to grow a succulent houseplant (you get the picture). When my youngest daughter decided she wanted to get a tattoo, she began the process.

She began with figuring out the ‘basics’; the who, what, where, why and how’s of the whole process. You think I’m kidding, but just you wait, it’s how this kiddo rolls.

The first thing she did was decide on the basic elements of the idea; an anchor with or without a chain. That bounced around her brain for a while, then her decision was made… check.

Next, the location and “why” she would put it there, another brain bounce completed… check.

This course of action continued like this until she had decided completely, and then she was ready to get it done. The best part about it for me? I wouldn’t change a thing about her or the way she figures things out. I have to be honest though, sometimes the process can try the patience of even the best mothers!

The final part of her process: Getting the family buy-in. You guessed it, no matter how independent my girls are they still seek out our approval. That’s not to say they won’t do it, but they are happier if we support. You have to understand what family buy-in consists of: Answering such questions as “Have you thought about it?”, “Does it fit into the way you live your life i.e. your work, your values, ethics, and morals?”, and “Can you afford it?” If after this conversation they still want to do it, we support it. That’s not to say we well also like it; however, they are grown women and they are highly capable of making their own decision. It does feel good that our opinion still counts, though.

Finally the big day was upon us. She had found a really good tattoo artist and a good friend to hold her hand. The next thing I knew texted pictures were arriving on my phone. There she was, a smile on her face and a tat on her wrist. As with everything else, she followed the artist’s direction to the letter. However, because she was a first timer, the skin sloughing off kinda freaked her out. But she was able to have a conversation with one of her pals that has been through the process many times, so she walked away with her ‘chill’ attitude back in place.

I’ve heard that once you’ve had your body inked, you begin planning your next tattoo. If she goes into the next one the same way she did with her first, there will be no worries. 

Exposed Temptation Tattoos FAQ About Tattoos

1. How old do you have to be to get a tattoo?      You must be 18 to get a tattoo, 16 with a parent present. Photo ID is required for everyone including the parent.

2. Do I need an appointment?      Appointments are not required, however, they are recommended, especially if you are getting a custom piece, as we will need time to get your artwork ready. Saturdays are reserved for walk-in only on a first come first serve basis.

3. How long does it take to heal?      See our After Care Information

4. Do you remove tattoos?      We do not offer this service at this time.

5. Does it hurt?      Everyone’s pain tolerance is different, but yes, generally most people find it to be a bit uncomfortable.

6. Will my tattoo fade?      Yes, time fades your memory and your tattoos unfortunately. However, you can slow this process down by taking care of your tattoo and keeping it out of the sun and putting sun block on it when you are outdoors. You can buy sun block and lotion to keep your tattoo looking its finest.

I realize tattoos aren’t for everyone, and if you would have asked me how I felt about them when I was the age my Youngest is, I would have had a very different answer. One thing I do know is when you have kids you are constantly picking your battles and wars. The most wonderful thing about having grown up children is most of those battles and wars are behind you…. Most of them.

My question to all of you out there: Have you ever been tattooed? Did you have a positive experience? I would love to know. If you’d like to share a picture of you tattoo I would love to see it, as long as it is in a place I can publish on this blog.

I still haven’t dismissed the idea of getting one….


About the author

Rebecca Thorsen